Family miss out on £1m as uncle leaves fortune to Turkish carer he hired
Just a few months earlier (Daily Mail, April 11, 2015)
As a home care agency provider, the above headline immediately captivated my attention in the airplane en route London to Los Angeles a few weeks ago. “The family of a former civil servant have spoken of their fury after he left his 1million estate to a Turkish carer he met just 14 months before he died (Daily Mail, April 11, 2015). The victim of this unfortunate circumstance disinherited his relatives shortly after the caregiver moved in; he also gave the carer the late wife’s wedding ring of 40 years.
The said caregiver started calling the client “daddy”, and the family sensed that something was fishy. After a few months, the client started accusing his family of harassing him to move into a nursing home, and requested for a restraining order on his family. As if that was not enough, she quickly convinced the client to hire her privately, and there was a buyout for £3000.00 ($6,000.00) from the agency. The “caregiver gold-digger” was on a mission and she did accomplish it successfully.
My experience as a provider in the past 15 years showed that what happened to the family mentioned in this story is very real, and can happen to anyone when there is no control or supervision. I have seen caregivers convincing a client to fire the agency that initiated the service and hire them privately, to fire their conservators, and falsely accuse family members of wanting to confine then to a nursing home. I have seen caregivers badmouthing the agency and in some case, the fiduciaries, to take control of the client.
Signs that a Caregiver is on a Selfish Mission
- Caregiver negatively badmouths other caregivers that run shift with him or her.
- Using words like: sweetie, honey, daddy, mommy, or names that are not professionally acceptable.
- Never talks good about the agency even when the agency is known for their great work.
- Overly possessive of the client, and insinuating to the client that he or she is the only one that can adequately take care of them.
- Calling the client on his or her off days to snoop on the relief caregiver.
- Clustering the client in the name of caring.
- Asking client for monitoring assistance.
- Accusing family members or close friends of planning to whisk them to a nursing home, when staying at home is their preference.
- Encouraging the client to fire their conservator or hire them privately.
All Saints Home Care maintains healthy relationship with each of our client through communication, one on one visit, and sometimes, unannounced visit, and this helps us to foresee signs before they get out of hand. It is imperative that the elderly population is truly protected from emotional, physical, and financial harm from those who are meant to protect them.